If you're an op shopping loving mumma like me I'm sure what I'm about to talk about, you'll have either experienced and or have been witness to when out and about thrifting. If you're a parent and you like to op shop, you might be much like me and often have your children with you when you visit stores. I have three children who are currently six years old and under, so it's rare to have child free days to visit op shops. For the main part when op shopping with the kids we have a great time together. The kids get to play with toys whilst I rummage around, I'll often sit on shop floors and read books to them, occasionally I will buy a small toy and we often visit parks afterwards, before or in between shops and so much more.
Don't get me wrong I'm not lugging them around on op shopping adventures with me every other day of the week for my selfish desires, far, far, far from it. But yes just as a trip to the supermarket for groceries or to the post office they are with me, it's life, and that's how it is.
But I have bee under my bonnet at the moment with op shop volunteers who feel that it's their entitled position to tell my children how inappropriate their behaviour is when I'm there dealing with situations, and who continue on to tell them they are naughty and a handful. Not only that they then discuss audibly with other staff and other shoppers my child's behaviour, because my child is having a bad moment. Now before you think I'm being precious about this, I take exception to this type of occurrence because I'm a very hands on parent. So when these situations arise I'm on it straight away dealing with the situation, and I'm in dialogue with my child about what is happening and how they are feeling. In all the time my children have been op shopping with me they have never broken an item in a store, they have always been expected to pack away toys and books they have pulled off shelves (which I assist them with). Then on the rare occasion my child may have caused a disruption they have always been expected to try make an apology in some way.
But this here is a note to those shop volunteers who feel it's necessary to belittle my child and imply to others I have poor parenting skills. STOP........seriously can't you stop for a second and see the difference between a mum who trying to address a situation and engaging with her child to resolve their issues. I frequently see and hear about parents who let their children run wild in stores, break things, make no attempts to resolve damages with staff, make a mess and don't clean up, make a scene and make no effort to deal with the situation. I realise these other mums who don't address these challenges with their kids may have struggles up against them with their children, and I'm not stupid I realise that as we live with it ourselves.
But seriously dear op shop volunteer you are often from an older generation, you possibly have several children of your own (albeit all grown up now) and many grand and great-grand children as I hear from many of you. How about you give a mum a break from your criticism of her and her child. You may be part of the older generation and you've done the hard yards with your children, but it doesn't mean because you've gone before me you know better than me on how to deal with my child.
Surely you remember what it's like to have those moments with your child, where they don't display their best behaviour and you're left dealing with a difficult situation. Didn't you just wish at those times, that someone had said something kind to you, told you to take your time, offered you a hand or a cup of tea.
I'm not a bad parent, my child is just having a moment, and your interjection is making it worse because they don't know you and you're being horrible in front of them to the person that loves them the most, their mum.
Back off and give me some space to deal with the situation, we will be out of your way just as soon as you do so. Please don't forget you're the face of a charity and it's just as easy for me to stop shopping at your store and not donate and take my business, charity and goodwill elsewhere.
Labels: Famiy, parenting