In August of this year I headed off to my 20 year high school reunion and had an amazing time catching up with old school friends. Tomorrow sees year twelve students in Queensland finishing up their schooling with their final day, with thousands of them chomping at the bit to celebrate with schoolie plans and events.
It's quite crazy to look back twenty years and think wow that was us (my friends and I) fashions were different, times were different and schoolie celebrations (if you ever hear the news reports these days) were a LOT, LOT different.
Pre-digital days, these pics had to be scanned. Gosh how times have changed some things get better with age and time for example photographic technology and myself I like to think.
These were my dates and I, on our formal night! I know what you're thinking......DATES!!!! Before you get carried away two of these three boys are childhood friends I've known since year one of primary school. I've always been one of the boys to this crew and I still am, but I'm more the lovable sister now, that they like to give a hard time and tease when we can all get together. My bestie Shannon who you've been introduced to on the blog, is part of this crew, but he got nabbed quick in the formal date partnerships, hence why he isn't pictured here, but he was certainly a huge part of our post formal celebrations.
When I started dating Ben in May of my final year of high school, Ben was quickly advised that he had to meet the "boys" and if he didn't get along with the boys and accept there was nothing else to our friendships, our blossoming relationship wouldn't last.
Ben is a year older than me and graduated the year before I did at different school. He was sweetheart to dress on the evening of my formal in something complimentary to myself just to nab a photo with me before I headed into my formal dinner. He then joined us for post-formal celebrations later.
I'm happy to say the "boys" and Ben all accepted one another and got along like a house on fire, which meant we just had another "boy" in our crew and fun times. We have all had some wonderfully crazy and fun times over the years, and if I think back to our post formal celebrations twenty years on I still have the boys forced to keep certain behaviours hush hush between our crew. Some things are just still too embarrassing to mention beyond our crew.
What I realise though, twenty years on is that I'm incredibly lucky to have such friendships in my life that have always been honest, true and and faithful in protecting me all of these years. My bestie Shannon and I catch up all the time (he is Fraser's godfather), but as for the other boys it's harder these days with us spread out, married, kids, running businesses or regularly jet setting. But the same thing remains that it doesn't matter if we haven't spoken in the longest time because as soon as we see each other, we are all picking up where we last left things.
If I could give any advice to school leavers at the moment, it would have nothing to do with career or work. It would be a plead to not be fickle with friendships, make sure you hold on to those ones that have stood the test of time through your schooling. Be honest, true and faithful to those connections. Do what you have to do to stay connected through tertiary studies and work, because as you emerge into your adult life and you feel a little lost along the way (it will happen, it happens to us all), these are the friends that will ground you in those changing times and will remind you that not everything has to change.
How long has been since you graduated? Care to share a picture? What advice would you give to school leavers of today in these different times?
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