Do you and your family have special traditions that you share?
We do and the great thing I love about family traditions is, that they can be big or small and can be regular or random daily, weekly, monthly, once a year or even a once and while thing. The other great thing with family traditions are, there are no rules when it comes to them because they are as unique as each family is.
Family traditions often come from family routine and serve to connect family members to one another. These connections give us comfort and security as well as a place and time we can check in at and be assured about our place in the world and in our family; we confirm our meaning to others and them to us.
We have quite a few traditions in our family of five from how things are said and done with bedtime routines to our standing family night each week known as Friday Night Movie Night (which I will be sharing more of on the blog). Then there are other traditions which are a little more random that have come about, but serve to connect us to each other and hold a great deal of meaning for all of us.
Over the years as the kids have learnt to draw and write it has become quite a thing for us to all make a point of drawing little pictures or penning a little love note for each other. At times when the kids have had trying times they have asked for notes to be slipped under their pillows at night as a confirmation. At other times little notes have served to assist Cohen with transitioning challenges he has juggled with Autism
. Either way we always oblige with letter requests.
For happy times and challenging times our little tradition of letters is called upon and the notes that are shared and exchanged hold a lot of meaning to the kids (and us), who we have found stockpiling little piles of notes in special places in their rooms, where we have caught them reading them in their quiet moments.
This tradition is something we hope to continue with the kids and I hope as the children grow up that the letters are preserved as a special memento of our family life and connection. That's why when I saw an Iconic Red Post Box before Christmas in a free local parenting magazine I went searching online for stockists and came by Confetti Kids
which I was surprised to discover is a Gold Coast business. With that I very quickly placed a pre-order for one and held out until until Christmas Day to see the kids unwrap it.
Come Christmas Day I was busting for the kids to open this present more than any other. Letters and sweet notes and imaginative play have been happening every day since this addition to our home, which is not just a "toy" but a piece for our home that is on display for our family to use in both play and the connection and strengthening of our bonds through the written word (and drawing of course).
I surprised the kids with a special note to each of them on New Years Day and placed it in the post box to be discovered. When Sarah finally checked the post box randomly through New Years Day she came by the notes and ran through the house squealing to Cohen with excitement. The kids where so excited with their New Years Day letter and we were later treated to a sweet note in return from Cohen.
I just love how we have this additional way that we connect in our family especially in a time where so much communication is done via social media and technology. Although our children are still young and not connected on any social media and won't be for many years yet, I hope we continue to be connected and bonded together in the sharing of feelings and love in the written word as they grow older.
Do you have special family traditions that bond you to each other?
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